Back before there was Sex in the City (my fave) or reality trash tv there were romantic novelist like Terry McMillian.
She wrote two of my favorite books, Disappearing Acts and Waiting to Exhale back when I was in college.
I read both books from cover to cover, I was completely entranced by the love story of Franklin and Zora in Disappearing Acts.
Likewise I could also relate to the ladies of Waiting to Exhale.
Subsequently, a movie was written for each – surprisingly, the movies for each are the books equal.
Have you seen or read these?
Sis, if not, head on over there to Amazon/Kindle right now and thank me later!
Anyway, I said all that to say – I am on the verge of exhaling.
Finally, after almost a half of a century of kissing frogs 🐸 looking for my prince, he randomly entered my life.
It’s funny how it all happened – the perfect stranger.
I’d seen him for years. A couple of times I started to say something to him but I always talked myself out of it. Finally, he spoke to me and from that day forward…
He told me it was not just coincidence that we began talking, that nothing just happens.
When he talks about us, it’s like I can feel his words, like they grip me.
When we’re together it’s like I am with my best friend – we can do absolutely nothing but just being together is so comfortable, like your favorite t-shirt or sweatshirt. Okay, not a good comparison but you get what I mean, lol.
(FALSE ALARM: he started hopping around 🐸 and saying ribbit shortly after this post but this is well written so I’m going to leave it up. Lbvs Seriously, you can’t transform a frog into a prince or a person that you know you are not equally yoked with into a soulmate…it won’t work…wait for it! Remember love is patient, love is kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way…(1 Corinthians 13:4-13))
Tonight while I was briefly scrolling through Facebook, one of my friends posted a pic of her and her husband with the caption “What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.”
That is food for thought.
Relationships are work. It takes two committed people to be successful. Two people fighting not each other, but together toward the same goal.
I don’t know my FB friend’s story, I barely know her, but I do know mine.
The Bible talks about we are not fighting against each other in Ephesians 6:12, but this fight is spiritual.
In relationships you are not on opposing sides but the same side, a team not opposition.
Let me insert here, I am not a relationship expert by any stretch – I told you I’ve been kissing frogs! Although kissing frogs has in someway educated me. Plus my Pastor and the televangelist that I watch have endlessly taught about developing functional relationships.
You’ll never win at anything if you give up just because you encounter a challenge.
No, it’s not easy. Relationships are about two imperfect people meeting the other’s needs. Yes, there will be challenges but by fighting together not each other, it will last.
As always, if this post encourages just one person, I have achieved success.
Be encouraged 💋